Conversations at midnight, of sub-title Coming to terms with Dying and Death, is written by a couple, Herbert Kramer, a communications consultant who was dying of cancer, and his wife, Kay Kramer, a clinical social worker. It is in the form of a dialogue between the two and in a question and answer format. The book was first published in 1993.
There are two parts which worth repeating here.
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On Death
To many of us, the consolations of religion, once so immediately available, have lost their power to explain death or comfort us with intimations of immortality or promises of heavenly reward. ...
Yet we know, though we are afraid to admit it, that death is no stranger in our own life or in the lives of those we love. As soon as we are old enough to understand the course of human life, we realize, reluctantly, that the natural process of our growing up brings us each day closer to our winding down.
From the very moment of birth, therefore, our death is an integral part of our life. Yet we disavow it, disown it, as if it were an alien to be shunned, or, if met face to face, an enemy to be defeated.
Despite our attempts to put it aside, death is always there, standing in the shadows, asking nothing more of us than to recognize it as a part of our lives, and to claim it as our own.
The Difference between Hope and Optimism
Hope is not optimism. It is a state of the spirit, and the spirit has to do with our relation to the transcendent. It tests its reality. Hope is rewarded. It stands, whereas optimism is an attitude that can be contradicted by events. Optimism is vague and non-particular. Hope is concerned with essential issues. Situations like yours challenge our thinking about the largest questions of human existence. Hope looks at all these, the limitations, the handicaps, the cruelty, and the terror and finds a light somewhere in all this darkness. Optimism is a shallower kind of blanket over things where the self is not invested. Optimism says, things are bound to get better. Hope trusts that you will be able to make them be better.
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It is interesting to note that the authors proclaimed that "it's particularly American" to avoid talking of death in the society, which I thought it was only the Asian (especially Chinese) who would like to avoid talking about death. Now I would need to rethink this proposition, and definitely it's NOT particularly American to avoid talking of death in the society, but in general.
Then, on "hope and optimism", I have to admit I don't understand what the authors are trying to elaborate "Optimism says things are bound to get better. Hope trusts that you will be able to make them be better." Do you understand?
It was one of last summer's early morning, something as early as 4:30am that my photography buddies would like to wandering around in the streets of Vancouver when nobody was around, or more precisely, when only a few people are around.
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10 June, 2010
05 April, 2010
Corinthians 13 ... Faith, Hope and Love!
Love is a mystery! It is so powerful and yet it is difficult to be defined. Everyone has the power to love, and the right to be loved, but yet not everyone know how to love, and we usually have difficulty in feeling being loved by others. Corinthians 13 is a beautiful chapter inside the Bible, as it provides a very good elaboration of love and therefore, allow me to copy the whole chapter below and let's read it through ... word by word! Repeat, please read it slowly and read it word by word.
Corinthians 13 - Love
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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It's amazed what love can bring to us in our everyday life and how powerful we are when we are filled with love. Please enjoy love as much as you can, and you will live and enjoy life, ... everyday of your life!
Corinthians 13 - Love
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
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It's amazed what love can bring to us in our everyday life and how powerful we are when we are filled with love. Please enjoy love as much as you can, and you will live and enjoy life, ... everyday of your life!
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